Meer Mom Lurking About

So, the Meers have been with us for nearly 6 months now. I think that we have a fairly decent relationship with bio parents, although we do not see them or talk to them often. We do see Meer Mom at school functions, and things usually go fairly well; although, she does not like that we will not allow her to fill the kids pockets up with cookies before they get back in our van. For some odd reason, school functions are usually right in the middle of any kind of normal dinner hour and involve cookies. So, we let the kids have a cookie, but we are on our way home to dinner when the school function is over. We really want them to eat dinner, so only one cookie. We also don't eat in our van, at all, unless we are on a very long trip or we have run into a time emergency....so no cookies in the pockets, because they don't stay there. But, we do talk about the kids with Meer Mom, and e-mail her, and have photo books made for her, and in general, we get along fairly well.

Soon after the Meers came to live with us, we found out that bio parents live about 7 blocks away from us, so we have changed some travel routes and started to avoid certain stores. Bio parents have to have supervised visits, supervised by somebody from DSS. Well, I guess that Oldest Meer told Meer Mom our address, and she has started lurking about. At one of their visits, she showed the kids pictures of our house on her phone and asked if that was where we lived. When confronted by the supervising case worker, Meer Mom stated that she had no clue as to how those pictures got on her phone. Meer Mom has rung our door bell at times, she drives by, she sits in her car on the street outside our house until a Meer starts happily yelling that she is there, and then she drives away. Packages that have been delivered while we are at work have gone missing since she started lurking around. I am more than a little freaked out! Meer Mom has many mental health issues and has been known to be very threatening. I spend much of my sleep time dreaming that she is in the house and taking the kids and I can't get to them, no matter how hard I try. We have been trying to get a restraining order, but we need a police report for that, and the police will not take a report unless they find her on the property, and so far, we have not been able to get them there before she leaves.

We have been foster parents to about 25 children and this is the first time this kind of thing has happened. Has it happened to anybody else? What did you do?